Sex is for marriage.
Marriage is between
one man and one woman.
All public policy on
sexuality, marriage, and the family should be rooted and grounded in those
three truth statements. Period. Public policies that support those three
principles should be supported. Public policies that undermine them should be
resisted and resisted strenuously.
The only domestic
relationship that should be recognized in law and be the basis for benefits,
especially tax considerations, is marriage between one man and one woman.
No other domestic
arrangement, no other form of sexual expression whether of the heterosexual or
homosexual variety, should receive society’s endorsement, approval, or subsidy.
Marriage between a man
and a woman should be the only domestic relationship specially protected in law
and the only domestic relationship which should be the object of favoritism in
tax policy. Marriage, because it is the cornerstone of any health society,
should have a favored status in tax policy, which means all marriage tax
penalties should be eliminated and domestic tax benefits should be afforded
only to married couples, benefits which aren’t available to people who are just
There are still
penalties in our tax code when each spouse makes over $68,000 a year, and the
monstrous Obama tax hikes, scheduled to go into effect January 1, will lower
that threshold and punish even more middle income marriages.
Child tax credits
should be extended only to married couples with children, but not to children
in any other domestic arrangement. Nobody is going to force anybody to get
married, but cohabiting couples will quickly learn that there are financial
costs as well as emotional and relational costs to shacking up. If they want to
bear those costs on their own, fine. Just don’t expect taxpayers to reward your
You get more of
whatever you subsidize. Want more sexual immorality, subsidize it through
taxpayer-funded sex education classes that teach kids a value-free approach to
fooling around. Subsidize it through taxpayer-funded clinics that offer
taxpayer-funded drugs to combat STDs and hand out condoms like candy.
illegitimate children? Subsidize illegitimacy by providing taxpayer-funded
medical services to the sexually promiscuous while making married couples pay
for their own childbirth expenses.
illegitimate children? Subsidize illegitimacy by giving single mothers more in
taxpayer funds for every child they bring into the world outside marriage.
Penalize them by withdrawing taxpayer-funded help the moment they decide to
marry the father.
illegitimacy at first glance sounds compassionate, but it’s not. You get more
of whatever you subsidize, and if you subsidize sexual immorality and
out-of-wedlock births you will get more of both. You are at the same time
subsidizing misery, disease, and poverty since those are all consequences of
sex outside marriage.
So the approach to
sound public policy is quite simple. We should ask one question about any and
every taxpayer funded social program: does this program offer some kind of
financial reward, some kind of financial benefit, some kind of taxpayer-funded
goody that incentivizes sexual activity outside marriage? Does it put taxpayers
in the position of absorbing lifestyle consequences that ought to be born by
the individuals themselves? If it does, let’s scrap it.
virtually destroyed the black family by making husbands and fathers irrelevant.
Government says to a young black woman, if your man ain’t around to be a father
to the kid you bore him, don’t worry about it. Big government will be his
daddy. If your man ain’t around to be a provider for you and the kids you have
borne him, don’t worry about a thing. Big government will be your man. This is
an utter, total recipe for disaster and social chaos and we are now reaping the
whirlwind. Kids need fathers, not welfare checks.
Before the infamous
“War on Poverty” was launched, about seven percent of black children were born
out of wedlock. Now, a generation later, about 70% of all black children are
born out of wedlock, with no father in the home to provide for them, train
them, love them, and protect them. This is a horrible, horrible disservice to
these vulnerable children, and the last thing we should be about as a society
is making the creation of such dysfunctional households easier by subsidizing
the choices that lead to their formation.
We can’t stop people
from making foolish and self-destructive choices. We can, however, stop
fleecing taxpayers to subsidize those choices.
If we begin to
withdraw taxpayer-funded subsidies for sexually immoral choices, it will not be
long before young men and young women learn that they’d better start making
better lifestyle choices because society is now expecting them to be
responsible to absorb the full consequences of their own decisions.
They will then be
dependent upon themselves and God, rather than government. They will be
dependent upon on their families, who will soon help them get their minds right
by setting conditions on the help they get. They will be dependent upon their
faith communities, which likewise will reinforce healthy lifestyle values and
choices and make help conditioned on assuming greater and greater personal
They will be
dependent upon charities funded by personal generosity rather than by
government theft, and donors will want to see evidence that the charity in
question is actually helping people get out of the death spiral they’re in. In
other words, genuine compassion offers a way out through personal
responsibility and individual accountability.
compassion, on the other hand, mires people in a helpless morass of abject
dependency. Government welfare programs weaken character, a terrible thing to
do to human beings created in the image of God.
We have destroyed
virtually an entire generation of black families in America through foolish and
grossly destructive welfare policies. We have no time left to reverse this
trend, if for no other reason than for the sake of young, vulnerable black
children who increasingly are growing up in poverty and dysfunction and are
headed for a lifetime of self-destructive choices in sex, education, behavior,
and career, all aided and abetted by public policies which are destroying them
in the name of compassion. That kind of compassion kills.
noted, the opinions expressed are the author’s and do not necessarily reflect
the views of the American Family Association or American Family Radio.)