(Editor’s Note: A ministry of AFA has a June 2021 event – the Marriage, Family, Life Conference. MFL’s purpose is to strengthen marriages and families to live faithfully in a culture hostile to truth. The blog below is used with permission, and it originally appeared here.)
A friend of ours has two tickets for the Formula 1 final race of the season – the Abu Dhabi Grand Prix, at the Yas Marina Circuit on the last weekend of the year. They are box seats and include flights, hospitality, and hotel accommodation. He didn’t realize when he bought them that this is the same day as his wedding. If you’re interested and want to go instead of him, it’s at St. Michael’s Church, Wigan, England, at 2:15 p.m. on the 26th. The bride’s name is Janet. She’ll be the one in the white dress.
At present, Sue and I have been married for a total of ninety-four years. That’s forty-seven years each. Our marriage has been a dream for every one of those years, and so I’m going to share why. Here are seven simple principles that can make any marriage blossom:
1. Put God first.
Love Him with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mark 12:30). In doing so, you will give up your rights. His will is yours. His smile is more important than yours. Obey this, the greatest of all commandments, and one fruit will be a wonderful marital relationship. Everything else grows out of this fertile soil.
2. Be quick to forgive.
Say you are sorry if you have had an argument, even if you think you were in the right. You don’t need to say that you were wrong; just say you are sorry that you had a disagreement, then share a hug. When you are getting along fine, talk about the importance of being humble of heart and doing this. It’s essential to plan ahead because human pride raises its stubborn head in an argument.
3. Listen to each other.
Share everything. Laugh together. Communication is the key to any friendship.
4. Read the Bible together daily for spiritual nourishment.
Treat this time as more important than your physical meals.
5. Pray together.
Confess your faults. Ask God for wisdom. Be thankful for each other.
6. Husbands, love your wife as much as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).
In other words, have the attitude that you would die for her. Love has nothing to do with an emotional feeling, and everything to do with your will. It’s a choice. That means when she asks you to do something, you don’t do it when you feel like it; you run to do it immediately. Give her flowers. Open the car door for her. For her, you would kill a lion. Treat her like a queen. The honeymoon need never be over.
7. Read 1 Corinthians 7 together and realize that you each have important obligations that need to be fulfilled.
Keep your grass green, and you won’t even look at your neighbor’s.
Do these seven things that are based on the Scriptures, and you will have a wonderful marriage. You have God’s Word on it.